He's an average student, no distinctions for him, but he is studious and gets fair marks, his big aspiration is to become a CA, but damn, although this mother will never say it to him, I have my doubts about whether he is going to manage to achieve that particular dream, the entrance requirements are stringent, and places limited and it states on all the sites that since it is a specialised field, they will select only the best.... which leaves my boy far behind.
A lot of guys in varsity who got in with top marks will fail quickly and be left emotionally scarred. A lot of smart kids score average in school because school is simply boring and not stimulating. So it went with the people who stuck through with me to the graduation ceremony and beyond.... they were average students in school, disinterested in what it had to give. However in university, instead of going from an A student to a F student, they pretty much maintained their average performance from school... I think this is because they were used to working for their grades.
Super serious; It's a crapshoot who will make it past the 1st year and who won't. Yes some highly gifted guys stuck around and took the top student awards, but they were also the HARD WORKING highly gifted kids. We were there, we arrived there average, but had the determination to stick it through. Interest and hard work is what you need in varsity, the syllabus is usually too high-grade to be just "sailed through".
I AM contradicting myself in saying "I had it easy" in varsity (ADD thread) and then saying "hard work will get you through, I was average...". I was average, my grades in varsity weren't what they should've been, and my major was my LIFE PASSION, so I knew a lot going in, and my courses were mostly re-hashing what I knew.... But I knew what I had to do to pass, and that is actually all that matters there. No-one will ask for your marks unless you wanna put "cum laude" on your CV. In fact, in most of my jobs nobody even bothered to check if I could produce an actual degree. Putting it on the CV was enough. I MAY be completely wrong when it comes to CA's though, they may be more stringent.
If he qualifies (and freck me you should TRY as hard as your little heart can to get him into the BEST institution you can, do NOT harm his chances before he can even roll the dice... his entire life depends on it), the secret to passing is this... Go to class, take notes, come home, go through it again, read the book, do the work. Go to sleep, tomorrow you do it again. DO NOT GET 1 DAY BEHIND! Your first day of varsity, if you fall behind THAT DAY, you're screwed. Perhaps his chums will be out partying. But they may fail because of it.
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Not to be stupidly obvious or "rub it in" inclined.... I'm just sad to note your lack of belief in the guy. What brought me where I am today was my parents' attitude from day 1: "What is good for the rest of the class simply does not count for you, push harder, do better, you have to believe that you CAN be the best, and when you do something DO IT THE BEST, the class is not your baseline. YOU are your baseline, and you should exceed it. That is the secret to having a job for the rest of your life. Do whatever you like, doesn't matter, but be the best."
I am not the best by my own admission. But I strive to be, and that makes me aim so much higher. My perception of average is not what the real average is. And that has made me stand back at times and go: "Whoa, how did I get HERE?!, in all my blindness of chasing greatness I have surpassed all those who were with me, and barely noticed, eye still on the prize".
That is the greatest gift my parents ever gave me, or my sibling. Pure unqualified unfettered and absolute belief. Don't do it lip service. Believe it. (Yes I'm channeling the secret but I've seen it change people, including myself)
At times some people probably think this makes me an asshole, but I wouldn't trade it for anything.